What does being grateful mean to you? The above quote is what it means to me. In today’s society, it seems we focus on what we don’t have and what is missing. Social media has definitely made this worse. People constantly compare themselves to what they see on Instagram or Facebook. “I wish I had that lifestyle” or “I wish I had that house” or “I wish I looked like that”. I am not any different. There are times I look at other bloggers where all they do is travel. I would love to do that! See the world and golf in many amazing places.
Maybe they are like Tim Ferris, where he interviews the top 5% in any given discipline. It could be acting, finance, music, psychology, investing or the food industry. The amount that I have learned from his books and interviews is incredible. I highly recommend him. Tim wrote and incredible piece this week on his blog (which you can read here) titled “11 Reasons Not to Become Famous”. It was really eye opening to the downside to being internet famous. Teaching at a junior high, becoming famous on snapchat or Tik Tok is all they talk about. Most think they will become famous, because they think being famous will solve all their problems.
This also made me think about gratitude. Now, gratitude is something that I have been working on for a while now. Every morning, I post on facebook my “Morning Gratitude”. It can be absolutely anything that you are grateful for having in your life. This means, the mere presence of this thing, makes your life better. If it was gone, it would have the opposite effect. When I discuss gratitude with my students, it is very important not to compare your life to someone else’s. “Well, at least I don’t live in war torn Syria”. This isn’t gratitude. It can be a start that leads you to gratitude. Instead of using that language, you could say “I am grateful I have a roof over my head” or “I have access to clean water”.
There is a lot of stress that builds up in us when we focus on what we DON’T have versus what we do have. If you are reading this on a computer or smartphone, there is probably a lot you can be grateful for. This isn’t always easy. Sometimes we go through dark times in our lives, and it is tough to see the silver linings.
My challenge to you, is to start your own gratitude journal. If you want to post along with me on facebook, please do. If not, just write it down in a journal or a notebook. Commit to write one thing for a month. It can be anything. The sunrise, hot water, food on the table, the feeling of being loved. It’s up to you. Then at the end of the month, read your list. Things aren’t as dark as you think, and the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
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